Sexual Libido and Psychological Issues
For both men and women, sexual libido seems to start to decrease in our early 40’s. Most of the time the lack or reduced sexual libido is related to a hormonal unbalance. However, as Judith Reichman M.D says on her book “I’m not in the Mood-What every woman should know about improving her libido” we cannot blame hormones for all our sexual woes any more than we can blame PMS for every bad mood.
In her book, Reichman wisely mentions some factors that add to our sexual libido concern.
Depression: Reichman mentions 20% of women develop depression at some time in their lives. Depression decrease and elevate certain hormones, which sometimes do not go back to their natural levels creating a hormonal unbalance which not only decrease a person’s sexual libido, but in addition creates more depression and other problems.
Stress and Anxiety: Chronic as well as severe stress can have long-term consequences in our bodies, mind, and libidos. Stress and anxiety directly affect hormones, as do depression, creating the same problem.
Sexual Abuse: 23% of women have suffered some kind of sexual abused, leading to a confused and lack of sexual desire. Sexual abuse leave victims with a psychological scar, which can later make them less open to enjoy sexual encounters.
Eating Disorders: Anorexia and bulimia are the most common eating disorders available. This disorders cannot only affect people emotionally but also physically as our bodies are not well nourished and do not have the vitamins and properties it needs to balance its substances and hormones, leading to a decrease of sexual desired along with many other problems.
Obesity: Obesity can be a result to an eating disorder, therefore consequences are strictly related. 37% of American Women are considered obese. Besides the fact that our bodies become unhealthy and unable to perform, there is also the psychological factor which make obese people self conscious and embarrassed hence less open to enjoy sex.
All these are factors which can influence our sexual desire. When present in our lives, it is important to deeply understand them in order to work out them. Sex is a natural and healthy part of our lives and should be treated with importance. Besides trying to search for supplements or factors which can aid our sexual libido it is always important to know if there are psychological factors affecting our sexual pleasure or performance, so that we can further aid it and reach a more complete and satisfactory sexual health.